Saturday

In my readings lately about getting my mind right, I’ve seen a recurring idea. These books about anxiety management and anger management and Buddhist wisdom - they assume that there is an inner happiness in all people...and that anger and anxiety and other negative emotions are just temporary and minor deviations from the foundation of happiness which is there and which has always been there.

I’m not so sure.

I was trying to tally up all of my times, viewing all of the periods of my life. ...grade school, junion high, high school, college, full-time in the workforce. When I view these periods of my life, it’s hard to remember whether I was mostly happy or mostly sad - minute to minute, hour to hour. It’s hard to remember whether I ever had a default happiness mode.

5 comments:

lyzne said...

you know, i wonder about that too. it seems to me my default mode is moroseness and in my blog i'm always writing the pain. i often wonder why i can't just default to a mode of minimal okness and acceptance of the way things are. why do i have to be such a dissenter? so then i circumlocute the whole situation until the dissent becomes an asset that's purely mine and THAT becomes the default ok state. so, i'm ok, yr ok,psycho killer? there exists this philosophy that states that everything's perfect the way it is, because it exists. if it wasn't perfect, it wouldn't exist. that sounds too much like calvinism for me to accept on my psychic tounge, so i don't swallow the pill entirely. i let it melt and seep into my brain slowly, seditiously. perhaps tho, THAT is my default state...

oh, thanks for letting me jump off into the zen of zenness with ya here. congrats on your impending marriage and all the best to you and your fiance.

lynze

Bobby said...

Hey you. See? This is similar to something I was wondering - sort of... is the default mode a constant state of pondering and philosophizing? ...constantly queuing up thoughts and either processing them or letting them go...like meditation maybe. Oh - I'd be happy if my default mode was meditation - or at least I'd forget that I was sad... ow...now I have a head ache.

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Anonymous said...

Bob....I'm reading your blog for the first time and came across the 'default happiness mode'...with respect to you, you don't need to have that....if you try to have a 'default happiness mode' you stop being you, you change your character and ermmm....that's it really. Be you my friend, people like you for you (some may not, but if not then it's their loss).

I'm wrighty, 42, and i don't give two f**ks whether people like me but i'm comfortable with my me-ness so if thats a default position then its one that i am comfortable with ;)

be well sir and congrats on your marriage :)